Posts tagged confidence
You Can't Be Good At Everything

Even writing this makes me smile because, as an entrepreneur, I would rebut this statement if someone else said it to me. After all, an integral part of the entrepreneur DNA is being confident and determined, so it’s quite natural to us to believe that we can put our minds to anything.

However, take it from me, a seasoned entrepreneur of 17 years – and a business coach who’s worked with hundreds of start-ups and growing businesses, right up to multi-million pound organisations – you can’t be good at everything.

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5 Reasons To Be Authentic In Business

I am an incredibly honest person. I was brought up in a family that lied as easily as you might take a breath, so I made a conscious decision when I was very young that I would be the opposite. I would be honest to a fault.

Since making that earnest promise to myself, I've come to realise that honesty - authenticity - isn't always valued. I've learned to temper my honesty with a cushion of kindness here and there, sometimes people don't want to hear the truth so it's better to say nothing than to lie but mostly, I like to think, people want to know where they stand and what their options might be.

As much as I like to tell the truth, I also appreciate hearing it. There have been notable occasions over the years when it's hurt a bit (OK, a lot!) but I'd much rather know than not know. It's how I've brought my sons up too, and the big pay-off has definitely been that they have told me all kinds of things that they could have kept secret, or even been too scared to share; and certainly things that my friends don't hear from their own children. 

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I Don't Stand On The Shoulders Of Giants: I Am A Giant

Recently, a fellow coach and I were talking about the different ways that people come into the industry. He said that only people with lots of qualifications and bits of paper should be coaches; that only they knew how to help those who wanted guidance and support.

I disagreed. I said that I felt we all had it in us to support and guide other people, because we'd all experienced things - and if you've experienced something, and learned from it, you can then share that learning with others. 

Experience trumps qualifications every day.

He ended our conversation by saying "I'm a great believer in systems; standing on the shoulders of giants and adding your own personal addition to it".

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Why Starting A Business Has No Age Restrictions: And 3 Top Tips For Getting Off The Ground

Research shows that more and more people in their 40’s and over are setting up their own businesses. There are various reasons – redundancy, the difficulties surrounding childcare, the undeniable urge you feel at a Certain Age to change your life for the better and leave the rat race.... Whatever they may be, us Mid Lifers are taking the plunge and becoming our own boss.

And so we should! Whilst the initial start up phase is difficult, the long term benefits of working for yourself are immeasurable, particularly at a time when you want to start winding down your work life a little more in favour of spending more time with family or pursuing hobbies and interests. Life isn’t all about work; finding a balance is key.

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Why You Can't Be A Victim As Well As A Success

I've told my story many times over the years, and am always happy to share it with others in the hope that they will be able to either change things in their lives that may be making them feel uncomfortable or unhappy, or recognise those things in others - and offer support.

I think it's our duty, as humans, to help each other.

Of course, when you tell your story, it is often then communicated by others, and one of the words that has been used to describe me in the past is 'victim'.

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Choices: We Are Who We Choose To Be

Welcome to the last in my four part video series, Break Through For The Real You.

Today I'm talking about one of the most powerful tools we have, and that's choices.

This relates to a recent Instagram post (ali.golds): 'The key to being happy is knowing you have the power to choose what to accept and what to let go'.

The thing about life and choices is that no matter what we think about our lives, how difficult they might be and how others might impact on them, we do have choices. we might regret some of those choices, we might be proud of some, but they all add up to the life that we lead and we are who we choose to be.

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