Posts in growth mindset
5 Reasons To Be Authentic In Business

I am an incredibly honest person. I was brought up in a family that lied as easily as you might take a breath, so I made a conscious decision when I was very young that I would be the opposite. I would be honest to a fault.

Since making that earnest promise to myself, I've come to realise that honesty - authenticity - isn't always valued. I've learned to temper my honesty with a cushion of kindness here and there, sometimes people don't want to hear the truth so it's better to say nothing than to lie but mostly, I like to think, people want to know where they stand and what their options might be.

As much as I like to tell the truth, I also appreciate hearing it. There have been notable occasions over the years when it's hurt a bit (OK, a lot!) but I'd much rather know than not know. It's how I've brought my sons up too, and the big pay-off has definitely been that they have told me all kinds of things that they could have kept secret, or even been too scared to share; and certainly things that my friends don't hear from their own children. 

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Accepting When It's Time To Move On (And Then Doing It).

It's a part of life, isn't it, that most things come to an end - either of our own volition, or just because they've reached the end of their use or purpose. Sometimes we're happy about it, other times we aren't. Sometimes we welcome the chance to start afresh, and sometimes we don't.

Change comes upon us all, and we need to embrace it or risk standing still (when everyone is racing past us like Olympic sprinters) - in life in general, and also in business.

I've tackled more change, and new starts, than I care to remember; and I've become a dab hand at it. To be fair, I'm also one of those people who likes to learn new things and experience new challenges, so it's not a surprise, and I don't see that changing any time soon.

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15 Ways To Find Inspiration

As an entrepreneur, and particularly as a writer, I like to be able to tap into inspiration at the drop of a hat.

Luckily, there are many things that inspire me - watching the world go by from my balcony next to the sea, spending time with my kids, listening to a piece of music or reading a book - but sometimes even my regular go-to inspiration injections don't quite cut it, and I need to really up the ante to get that hit.

So what can we do when we need a shot of inspiration but it's just not happening?

Here's my top fifteen suggestions:

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5 Ways To Go From Being Lost To Found

I have a sign above my desk.

I hung it up a year ago, and I see it every time I sit down. I placed it there deliberately; I wanted the reminder of where I once was, and how I once thought - and how far I'd moved on - every single day.

I wanted to catch sight of it when I was working, or reading, or creating. I wanted the reassurance that, although things might have once seemed to be at an end - the end is often the beginning.

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Pain-points, Entrepreneurs, And The Inimitable Ms Franklin

News of the death of Aretha Franklin touched hearts across the globe yesterday.

She was a woman filled to the brim with talent; a glorious voice that could bring listeners to tears, happy or sad, and leave them feeling emotions on a scale that perhaps few could achieve, and an ability to write songs that reached in and soothed our pain. 

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How To Make Good Decisions - And Stick to Them

Life is all about decisions.

From what foot to put out of bed first in the morning (or even, whether to get out of bed some days), to what task to tackle first at work or what cook for supper, it's Decision Central.

Decisions, decisions, decisions.

Some of us are great at making them, others not so. 

Some of us thrive on making big and important decisions but can still be found weighing up the pro’s and con’s… CONTD

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Do You Know What You Really Want?

I am writing this blog from beautiful, and very warm, Andalucía, where I am living and working for the next few weeks.
When I hit the big 50 last summer, I decided that I had to stop living my life entirely for my kids - who were off living their own lives anyway, and had expected that I would be doing the same - and start living my life for me.

First thing on the list was to travel more. I had a list of places that I wanted to visit (and all of them were sunny - the grey, rainy, cloudy, British weather is definitely NOT motivational for me!) so I picked Barcelona, booked a flight, and headed there for a week.

Just me.

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I Don't Stand On The Shoulders Of Giants: I Am A Giant

Recently, a fellow coach and I were talking about the different ways that people come into the industry. He said that only people with lots of qualifications and bits of paper should be coaches; that only they knew how to help those who wanted guidance and support.

I disagreed. I said that I felt we all had it in us to support and guide other people, because we'd all experienced things - and if you've experienced something, and learned from it, you can then share that learning with others. 

Experience trumps qualifications every day.

He ended our conversation by saying "I'm a great believer in systems; standing on the shoulders of giants and adding your own personal addition to it".

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