I Don't Stand On The Shoulders Of Giants: I Am A Giant

Recently, a fellow coach and I were talking about the different ways that people come into the industry. He said that only people with lots of qualifications and bits of paper should be coaches; that only they knew how to help those who wanted guidance and support.

I disagreed. I said that I felt we all had it in us to support and guide other people, because we'd all experienced things - and if you've experienced something, and learned from it, you can then share that learning with others. 

Experience trumps qualifications every day.

He ended our conversation by saying "I'm a great believer in systems; standing on the shoulders of giants and adding your own personal addition to it".

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Why Starting A Business Has No Age Restrictions: And 3 Top Tips For Getting Off The Ground

Research shows that more and more people in their 40’s and over are setting up their own businesses. There are various reasons – redundancy, the difficulties surrounding childcare, the undeniable urge you feel at a Certain Age to change your life for the better and leave the rat race.... Whatever they may be, us Mid Lifers are taking the plunge and becoming our own boss.

And so we should! Whilst the initial start up phase is difficult, the long term benefits of working for yourself are immeasurable, particularly at a time when you want to start winding down your work life a little more in favour of spending more time with family or pursuing hobbies and interests. Life isn’t all about work; finding a balance is key.

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Why You Can't Be A Victim As Well As A Success

I've told my story many times over the years, and am always happy to share it with others in the hope that they will be able to either change things in their lives that may be making them feel uncomfortable or unhappy, or recognise those things in others - and offer support.

I think it's our duty, as humans, to help each other.

Of course, when you tell your story, it is often then communicated by others, and one of the words that has been used to describe me in the past is 'victim'.

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Walk Through Fear

I had an interesting conversation with a fellow coach last week. He said that only people with lots of qualifications and bits of paper should be coaches; that only they knew how to help those who wanted guidance and support.

I disagreed. I said that I felt we all had it in us to support and guide other people, because we'd all experienced things - and if you've experienced something, and learned from it, you can then share that learning with others. 

Experience trumps qualifications every day.

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Choices: We Are Who We Choose To Be

Welcome to the last in my four part video series, Break Through For The Real You.

Today I'm talking about one of the most powerful tools we have, and that's choices.

This relates to a recent Instagram post (ali.golds): 'The key to being happy is knowing you have the power to choose what to accept and what to let go'.

The thing about life and choices is that no matter what we think about our lives, how difficult they might be and how others might impact on them, we do have choices. we might regret some of those choices, we might be proud of some, but they all add up to the life that we lead and we are who we choose to be.

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How to Take Action and Stop Giving Fear a Second More of Your Life

Fear was a big part of my life for many years.  

I was frightened of everything: what other people might say, what they might do. I was even frightened of my shadow, if I'm really honest with you.

You name it, I was frightened of it, and that's not a good place to be.

I modified who I was to fit what everybody else wanted. I became a version of me that everybody else wanted but I didn't want and I let that happen because I was so frightened.

It has taken me 48 years to understand what fear had done and how it had made me behave.

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4 Things I Learnt When I Spoke To 30,000 Premier League Fans About Domestic Abuse

I was honoured to be asked to speak on behalf of domestic abuse charity RISE, at a recent premiership football match in front of 30,000 fans.

Not only is RISE a charity close to my heart but, having had to seek sanctuary in a women’s refuge myself to escape an abusive ex-partner, the opportunity to reach an audience perhaps un-used to hearing stories such as mine, and deliver RISE’s message that domestic abuse is #everyonesbusiness, was too tempting to miss.

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